5 Ways to Nourish Your Top 5

Now that we’ve established the need for a Top 5, let’s take a look at some ways to nurture them. I treat my special circle as a top priority, so I’ve set up a Notion dashboard with important dates (birthdays, project launches, Big Deal Things that are happening). This enables me to ensure I don’t miss anything important, and also know what I’ve done for them already so I don’t repeat gifts, etc.

Here are 5 categories you can think about, and none of these have to be pricey. It’s much more about being thoughtful so your Top 5 feel seen, heard and valued. 

1. Thoughtful little gifts (I keep the travel candles in stock at all times)

We all travel quite a bit, so when I find cute travel candles, I’ll stock up so I can bring those along when we meet up for lunch, drinks, etc.

2. Greeting or note cards

I mean, who does not love a handwritten note? These days it’s a special treasure to find one of those in your mailbox, so take the time to find out their addresses. This is also great when you want to send flowers, and they can be thoroughly surprised.

I’m a HUGE fan of Em & Friends, particularly their Pep Talk Postcards.

3. Treating to drinks or dinner

If it works for your budget, this is a wonderful way to celebrate someone. Again, it doesn’t need to be an expensive dinner. It can be a cup of coffee. “My treat!” is one of the best phrases in the English language!

4. Brainstorming sessions

Are they wrestling with a problem? Offer to help them noodle on it and provide some impartial perspectives/advice.

5. Actively listening when something important is happening

This is the easiest one of all — and also the hardest. It means you need to be all there for them, and not talk about you. This is their time to shine, vent, philosophize, whatever they need. You are there as a vessel to listen.


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